14 February 2022

I Like to Write:: A Sham of A Day

 


I have been sitting here all day pondering this day. Its a sham. Really. It is. A full day to show your love and admiration to the love of your life. Billions of dollars spent by women and men to shower the loved ones with chocolate and roses. Kids all over showing up to school with candies and gifts for their friends. The whole idea isn't bad. It's a sweet day. Literally, I have eaten my weight in chocolate today. But seriously do men really wait until this day to send a card, flowers, or a little note saying "You are my one and only"? 

I believe in showing your love every day. I believe in showing your children that you appreciate and respect your love every day. I believe that this day just makes you have expectations that won't happen and then when you know they aren't you're upset. Why? Because you are watching what everyone wants you to see on social media. You're seeing the sweetness, the flowers, and the proclamations of love.  

If you don't have a man that has that romance bone this day can make you think. It can make you want something that you know he isn't capable of and it can make you expect something you know won't happen. If you don't expect it the other 364 days of the year, why do we expect it this one? Who knows. Women are complicated. We say we don't like it, don't want it, but really that small gesture is what we want. To know that you are wanted. To know that you are appreciated. Women..moms..often feel that they give and give and really don't get. This day you are to not feel like the MOM and be the WIFE/GIRLFRIEND. But how do men separate that? It's got to be hard. Life often gets in the way of a special day. It comes and goes and you are just thankful for bedtime. 

We need to be more appreciative of those small gestures and not be mad when one day of the year feels like every other day of the year. We should enjoy when he brings home a coffee or a tub of ice cream because he thought of you. We need to love when you're sharing the day and the laughter is there. We need to love the silence of just sitting together after the kids are in bed. It's these little things that seem to be forgotten on THIS DAY. THIS marketed targeted day. 

So love on your husband/boyfriend and celebrate him 365 not 1. Enjoy the company of the one that makes the heart grow and the laughter bubble.